Wednesday, September 29, 2010

Dr. Roz and Kil: The Questions

Many are "waiting on the Lord" to send them there mate. Do you think some people use this phrase as a scapgoat to hide behind? People continue to date but then dump the person because they are not "Godly" enough.

Well, first let me start this off by saying that maybe there are some people who use the "waiting on the Lord to send me someone" as an excuse for not having anyone but if that person is a true believer then I believe that's exactly what they're doing. I mean, there are a MILLION other excuses people can use and are using to why they don't have a mate, but if they're trying to bring God's name in it that's just wack.

It's funny you ask that question though because I can remember an article online a while back about black women not dating "good" black men just because they don't go to church. I don't think most unbelievers "get" or understand how believers think. When I was a kid growing up in Philly, my friends and I would make fun of the way the chinese people talked who ran the take out spot we went to. (No disrespect to any of our asian followers btw) And the reason why we made fun of them was because they sounded funny to us and we didn't understand what they were saying. And I think that's what a lot of unbelievers do when believers say things like "I'm waiting on the Lord". They make fun of it because they don't understand what we're saying and it sounds funny to them. Roz and I are both believers so the bulk of our advice is going to come from a biblical standpoint and the best thing about that is God's advice is the PERFECT advice for everyone! And as believers, we're taught to lean on God for EVERYTHING! Philippians 4:6 says "Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything." Now do believers always wait for God when we make all of our decisions? Naw, but make enough bad decisions on your own and you'll learn to start waiting on God! And as my pastor always teaches, who you marry is the 2nd most important decision you will ever make in life (the first decision would be giving your life to Christ) so why leave that up to the luck of the draw? I know people who make the most strategic and smart decisions when it comes to every other aspect of their life but when it comes to affairs of the heart? They just throw caution to the wind! Truth be told, I wish more people would wait on God to tell them who to marry! Here's a funny story, my daughter at 4 years old is already a hopeless romantic and one day we were in the car and she says "daddy, will God tell me who to marry?" And I say "yeah, Nay he will." And she says "good, because I don't want to choose the wrong person."

Plus, if finding a "Godly" man is important to someone, what's wrong with women dumping the guys who aren't? They don't have an attribute that the women they're dating want in a man, so they bounce. If they stayed, we'd be calling them dumb! And I've seen plenty of women dump men for reasons A LOT for more trivial then he doesn't know God!


Anonymous said...

Great question! There are certainly single women in my opinion who say they're "waiting on the Lord" as a scapegoat (christian and non-christian). I find that many women say it because they've been unsuccessful in "finding" a man on their own. Proverbs 18:22 says "He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord", yet tons of women have taken on a "hunter's" approach and seek out men. When that doesn't work, now they're suddenly "waiting on the Lord". When we truly wait on the Lord to do something in our lives we have to develop a posture of prayer whereby our petitions are going up to God in faith and we're listening to how the Holy Spirit leads us and are obedient to His direction. As a single christian woman who is waiting on the Lord for marriage, I view it as an arranged marriage. A christian marriage is supposed to be a reflection of Christ's relationship with his bride, the church (Ephesians 5:25). While waiting, I think people should check their motives for wanting to be married in the first place and make sure their whole as a single.

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