Monday, November 8, 2010

Happy Birthday Naomi!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Happy Birthday Naomi!!!!!!!!!!
First things first, before I get into this week's topic. I have to give a CRAZY shout out to my baby girl Naomi for celebrating her 5th birthday today!!!!!!! I can't believe it's been 5 years since I first held Naomi in my arms. Since that was the very first time I ever held a baby I KNEW I would drop her at least once during her newborn/toddler ages but thankfully I didn't! Naomi has grown into a beautiful, intelligent, God loving young lady and I wouldn't trade her for the world! So Happy Birthday Naomi and Daddy loves you with ALL of his heart!!!!!

Now, back to our regular scheduled programming on "Male Mondays". I was watching the Ravens/Dolphins game on Sunday trying to figure out what our topic this week should be. The Ravens had the ball and it was 3rd and goal and by the time the Ravens got in formation on the field the play clock was down to 3 seconds and the Raven's had to use the team's 2nd timeout and Clark Kellog said that the Raven's communication is defintely lacking today, which gave me the idea to talk about communication in marriage because in most marriages, communication is defintely lacking.

I think one of the hardest parts of marriage is that most times one spouse not only wants to communicates more than the other but they also communicates better than their spouse. And in my opinion for a marriage to truly be successful both individuals have to not only want to communicate, and have to communicate but need to learn to communicate well. When Tee and I first got married, one of our first counselors taught us that a lot of times "words get lost in the air". And what they meant by that was as the words leave my mouth and by the time they get to Tee's ears, what she hears, isn't what I was really saying. And that taught us that we have to make sure we both understand what the other is trying to say, which is no easy task. Because if your spouse doesn't get what you're really saying, it just leads us down a long, winding road that's hard to come back from. Whenever I start a converstaion with Tee, I always start with what my "thesis statement" is so she can understand what the moral of the story is before words start getting lost. But this is just one of many techniques you can use to try to make sure your spouse truly understands what you're trying to say, but I can't express how important it is for both spouses to step up their communication game. NO ONE wants to be on a team where one person does ALL the work and does all the "heavy lifting" while the other one just sits back and does nothing. BOTH people need to be working equally as hard to make sure that as a couple, that your communication game is tight which will reflect in a happier marriage. And happiness in marriage is like money, you can never have enough. I mean really, who doesn't want a happier marriage?


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