Friday, January 14, 2011

Dr. Roz and Kil: Upgrade You

Partner, Let Me Upgrade You!
Hey family, it's been a while since you've heard from me, but my mother became ill over the holidays, so I really thank you Kil for holding the blog down while I was away and thank you all for your emails and your prayers! My family certainly appreciates you!

So let's jump into Female Fridays and the notion of upgrading in a relationship. Kil mentioned in his piece that  the young lady that he knew thought she upgraded to a new man, however he was a cheater, but  he spent time with her children and that made him better!. Essentially she moved from one bad relationship to the next, but to make herself feel better about her decision, she needed to conjure up some new value to feel like she indeed upgraded her relationship.

Women are not the only ones that find themselves in this situation. Based on Kil's coworker's theory that all men cheat, then it appears that men are constantly trying to upgrade to something better while in their current relationships as well. What has not been realized is that if you are taking your same "self" into these relationships, then nine times out of ten, you will get the same results in a new relationship!

If you are unhappy in your relationships, then it is time to look at the role that you play in your relationship! Are you picking the same person and if you are, what is it about you that makes you go after that same type? I don't think we do enough introspection before we jump into  new relationships and as a result, we end up with the same result of unhappiness when we are with different people. While I love my girl Beyonce and her song Upgrade You, no one else has the power to upgrade you, you are the only one that can upgrade you! Spend some time with yourself and get to know you, after all if you don't want to spend time with yourself, you can't expect anyone else to want to spend time with you!


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