Tuesday, October 30, 2012

A Day In The Life of A Single Parent: "Sacrifice"

If Dora the Explorer, Yo Gabba Gabba or Sponge Bob Squarepants is saved on your DVR, most likely you are a parent. During my adulthood I never thought my question to my son would be, “Why does SpongeBob constantly get on Squidward’s nerves?”

I look forward to seeing the movie The Avengers, more then my son. Enjoying quality time with him is a joy even when it’s a sacrifice of my own time. Sure there’s a list of things to do: washing clothes, doing homework (I just started taking up accounting) and sorting clothes for laundry day. But there are times when the duties can have me running around with the lurking reminder that you’re son needs your undivided attention. Even though Tamar & Vince is my guilty pleasure, I record the show at a later time to play the Wii with my little one. Yes, I could go into another room and let him watch television on his own but not seeing my son all day due to school/work drives me to spend time with him.

Single parenting is a joyous thing but also a stressful feat. Being single in 2012, is critical at times due to the negative statistics from the media and negative remarks from loved ones that wonder, why are you still single? Now add a child to it and it gets even harder. The challenges run from needing a sitter for a date night to juggling school, work, and running a household without a help mate. In the past, I encountered certain men who wanted to hang out knowing I needed to be home with my son but their patience became short and some just moved on.

Lord knows I am not the type that makes their kid their whole universe and have no desire for a social life whatsoever. Being social is good, but being social at the price of your child is not. Too many people sacrifice their child by introducing them to anything or anybody, which can create an environment for abuse, molestation and murder. If my son is meeting someone, the gentleman most likely proved worthy of the meet and greet, has longevity and accepts my child. A young lady asked me, “how do you feel having less freedom due to having a child?” I told her I lived my life, and know it’s time to help my son live his. It’s called sacrifice. Matter of fact, a true parent has a Sacrificial Love for their child.

Have you ever wondered how God could love us as His children? Look at parenting. That is a love that is small compared to God’s Sacrificial Love for us. But it’s a glimpse of why he chastises us and loves us, even when we are wrong.

At the present moment, I am attending community college and I would rather relax after a hard day at work but I decided to better our household financially by finishing school. Sacrifice is not always a willingness to do things; it can totally go against how you feel at times. So that means if I want to purchase a new pair of sexy heels to wear, I’ll pass to make sure my son has his boots first. If I want to go out on a date and my son is sick, I will have to pass. When Basketball Wives comes on and my child wants quality time, the DVR will have to come in handy. When I want to revise my novel and my son needs to practice playing his trumpet, I have to write later or while he is sleep.

I never thought I would be watching cartoons almost every night. But that is one of the things my son wants me to do with him. So instead of watching mindless entertainment, I will cuddle up with my son and wonder why Goku is fighting an evil nemesis named Freiza. In layman’s terms, Dragon Ball Z. 

What changes did you experienced since you became a single parent or a parent in general?

Mar Na Carter

About the author:

Mar Na Carter is a proud parent and self-published author of Massive Thoughts: Free Verse Poetry. She resides in the 215 area code (Philadelphia) where she does spoken-word at various events and church functions. God has led her into the world of fiction and in the process of writing a Christian novel for young adults.

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Anonymous said...

Enjoyable Article! The author was 100% correct on the sacrifical love a parent has for their child!

Kil said...

Thanks for checking it out! Mar Na will be writing a RACK of articles for us dealing with being a single parent so stay tuned!

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