How Do I Get My Husband To Stop Being Selfish With Sex?

Dr. Roz and Kil give advice on how a wife can get her husband to stop being selfish in the bedroom.

Should A Married Couple Attend Different Churches?

Dr. Roz and Kil break down should a married couple attend different churches.

My Husband Is Addicted To Drugs!

Dr. Roz and Kil give advice to a wife who's husband is addicted to drugs.

My Husband NEVER Sacrifices For Me!

Dr. Roz and Kil give advice to a wife who's husband doesn't sacrifice for her.

How Do I Tell My Family I'm Marrying Outside My Race?

Dr. Roz and Kil answer a question about marrying outside your race.

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Have you ever wondered what you'd get if you took a clinical psychologist and a hip hop producer and gave them a blog that dealt with marriage, relationships and everything in between? Probably not...BUT if you did, then you'd have Marriage Exposed! With a mixture of therapeutical strategies, biblical principals, practicality and laughter, Dr. Roz and Kil not only coach couples through the "hard times" of their relationships but they continue to impart wisdom, after their storms have passed. Send us your questions or comments and join the conversation!

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

Word Up Wednesdays...Don't Wait To Celebrate

“Come, let us sing for joy to the Lord; let us shout aloud to the Rock of our salvation.” – Psalm 95:1 

When Barry Bonds hits his 756th home run, setting a new baseball home run record, he immediately threw his hands in the air in victory. The fans in the stands went wild in celebration. His team was cheering. Fireworks began to go off. All of this happened, yet the run wasn’t even official until he rounded all the bases and came back to home plate. None of those present that night waited for him to get home before they began celebrating. They didn’t wait for the run to show on the scoreboard. They knew it was a home run, so they immediately began cheering.

Jesus hit a home run on Calvary. It was there that He won the victory over sin and there that He ensured our eternal salvation. Even though the game isn’t over yet and even though He hasn’t finished His “play” yet, we have reason to celebrate. We’re just running the bases now because the victory is already ours. Let’s not wait a second longer before we start celebrating.

Prayer:
God, in the name of Jesus, we come to You praising You, and thanking You that the victory is ours. It is ours now! We don’t have to wait until heaven to start to celebration. Jesus has already opened the way. He has already redeemed us. He has already won! Thanks You, God! Thank You, God! Praise Your name! Amen.

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Tuesday, November 27, 2012

Phynyx Ministries: What Is Sexual Assault?


Written by Angela Wharton

Hey Marriage Exposed Family! It’s been awhile since we last spoke, but let’s go ahead and get to it! I’d like to take this opportunity to chat a bit about what Sexual Assault is, and how it affects our relationships.

What is Sexual Assault? 

Sexual assault is any sexual activity involving a person who does not or cannot (due to alcohol, drugs, or some sort of incapacitation) agree or consent. According to the U.S. Department of Health & Human Services, “sexual assault can be verbal, visual, or anything that forces a person to take part in unwanted sexual contact or attention.” Sexual assault is somewhat of an umbrella term, and can describe many things, including:
• Rape, including partner and marital (yes, you can be raped by your spouse)
• Unwanted sexual contact (touching or grabbing)
• Unwelcome exposure of another person’s body, exhibitionism, or voyeurism
• Child sex abuse
• Incest or molestation
• Sexual harassment
• Sexual exploitation of clients by therapists, doctors, dentist, or other professionals (yes, this does happen too)

How does Sexual Assault affect our relationships/marriages?

Sexual Assault affects our relationships/marriages in many different ways. If you are the Survivor, you may feel completely unsupported by your mate, who may not understand why it is “taking so long” for you to “get it together” and get back on track. Partners may have many issues of their own that prevent them from being supportive — such as deeply held beliefs that you may have attracted sexual attention from another, guilt over not having been there to protect you, and just a general sense of not understanding your pain and your healing journey. You shouldn’t feel guilty or foolish if you feel emotionally disconnected from your partner or unhappy in the bedroom. It doesn’t mean that you don’t love your partner or that you are no longer a sexual being. Consider it a period of healing and growth in which you need to take things slow. You should be aware of some of the common fears and concerns that can haunt many victims of sexual assault. You may feel like:
• You are damaged goods
• You are not a real man (if you are a man who was raped)
• You can never enjoy sex again
• You are afraid to be attractive and look desirable

Ultimately, rebuilding a relationship after you have been raped might be one of the most difficult things you will ever do, but it can also transform your relationship in extraordinary ways if you and your partner acknowledge the challenges and work to together to heal yourselves, and the relationship. Your bond can become stronger than ever before, and your connection with your partner will be more intimate and powerful (I’m a witness!!!). Just make sure to keep the communication lines open and turn to a therapist or counselor for help if you can.

Until we meet again, be encouraged and know that your past does not define you. You can pick up the pieces and move forward with your life.

Peace and blessings,

Phynyxx Skyy
Phynyxministries.org
Facebook.com/phynyxministries
@phynyxministrie 

References: 
Dr. Laura Berman
Rainn.org
Pandy’s.org


Angela Wharton

About the author:

Angela D. Wharton is a woman of enormous faith and is the visionary, founder and leader of Phynyx Ministries, a faith inspired advocacy and support program for survivors of sexual assaults. A survivor of a sexual assault herself, Angela is a devoted wife and mother of two young girls on an unchartered mission of healing, wholeness, empowerment and love.

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Sunday, November 25, 2012

Sensual Sundays: Jazzmatazz Volume 1

On tap for Sensual Sundays this week is one of my fave smooth jazz mixes I put together called "Jazzmatazz Volume 1." Trust me, if you mess with smooth jazz I'm sure it'll be one of your favorite mixes too.

Tracklisting: 
Bedtime Story
I Get Lonely
So Beautiful Anytime
The Song Lives On
Sara Smile
If Only For One Night
Are You Ready?
For You
I Said I Love You
All About You
Songbird
In the Rain
My All
Dedication
Going In Circles
Sax in the Garden

Link: 
Jazzmatazz Vol. 1

Instructions On How to Download:
#1 - Click the link that will take you to sendspace.com and click the blue button that says "click here to start download from sendspace." DO NOT click any other "download" buttons.

#2 - Pick the destination of the download (exp. Desktop, C drive, My music, etc.)

#3 - Once the file is finished, it's in a zip file and you'll need to unzip it. Right click the zip file and click "extract" and it will pull the music out and put it in a regular folder with the mp3 files. 

#4 - At this point you can play the files from your computer but if you want to burn them to CD put the mp3 files into your itunes, real player, etc. library and burn them to CD and enjoy! 

Wednesday, November 21, 2012

Word Up Wednesdays...Are You Willing To Pay The Price For Your Dreams?


“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” – Galatians 6:9 

Gary Brackett is an NFL middle linebacker with the Indianapolis Colts. He graduated from Rutgers University but was a walk on in college football. He hadn’t been recruited; he hadn’t been offered a scholarship; he didn’t start out with the level of respect that comes with being recruited for a school team; and his parents had to make great sacrifices to enable him to have a chance at fulfilling his dream. But by his senior year, Brackett had not only earned a football scholarship, but he was captain of the defensive team and been named the team’s defensive Most Valuable Player. Now Gary Brackett wears a Super Bowl ring and earns millions.

Years ago, there was a poster with the caption: “Happy is the man who dreams dreams and is willing to pay the price to make them come true.” We need to do more than just dream the dream. If any of our dreams are to become realities, we have to put forth the time and effort-until we see them materialize. We can’t be deterred by the fact that we haven’t been given the same advantages as some people, or that we aren’t given the respect we deserve, or that our circumstances are harder than others’ circumstances. We must keep our goal in sight and “not become weary in doing good.”

Prayer: 
Father, forgive us for the times we’ve felt like quitting and the times we have quit. Renew within us the resolve to stay on course and to do whatever it takes to get to the place for which we believe You created us. Let us now be discouraged, but give us the perseverance to continue to work in our fields until the harvest comes. In Your name we pray, Amen.

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Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Life After Loss: Explaining To The Children

Written by Lisa Bell

My husband was diagnosed with colon cancer in September of 2003 and passed on July 26, 2005. My son was 7 going on 8 and my daughter was 2 going on 3yrs old when he passed. I remember the morning that he passed, I was running around making the funeral arrangements and my mom told me that my sister and brother-in-law took my son to breakfast to explain to him what had happened. I said, "ok." Now I am a VERY blunt person and very close to my children so I kept them, or at least my son in the loop the entire time, I hardly beat around the bush, so my children are used to getting it straight! After I made the arrangements, I went to my mother's house. My son was running around playing, which was after he was supposedly told, so I felt that he didn't really grasp what had happened. I went into the den and called him in there, I said, "Are you ok?" He said, "Yep." I said, "What did Aunty tell you?" He said, "She told me that Daddy is an angel now, but I already know that, and we all have angels." I said, "Baby, Daddy is gone, he passed away early this morning." He immediately began to cry and said, "what? Is that what she was trying to tell me? Why didn't she just say that?"

He chose to stay at my mom's house for that night, but my daughter came home with me. Now, normally I would take her in to spend time with him before she went to bed, but about a week before he passed, I stopped, I guess subliminally I knew what was happening and, I don't know, I just did what I felt in my heart. There was no manual and I was trying to make it as easy for her as possible, so I was trying to break the routine. We got home and I took her straight to her room, as I had for the past week, which she didn't fight until that night. She said, "No, I wanna see Daddy." She opened the door and clearly she saw that no one was in the bed but she went around to his side of the bed, rubbed the top of it, layed her head down and said, "Daddy is gone, bye Daddy, you are all better now."

My son came home a couple of days later and I took him to a counselor. After about 30 minutes, she came out and called me in and he waited in the lobby. She said, "You have done a great job with him and actually, I think he is fine. Now, he may reprocess this later, as most children do and my need to speak to someone at that point but for right now, he's fine, in my opinion." What a relief!

I notified the school and they had a grief counselor come in to talk to his classmates about his loss. And I made it clear to my son that he was NOT to use this as an excuse as to slack off in school. I reinforced the importance of doing well in school so that he could have a better adult life and that playing on others' sympathy was not what WE do. We transitioned rather well, with the grace of God. He is now going on 15 and my daughter just turned 10. She tends to have more of an issue with it from time to time. She wants to know why he died and she thinks it's unfair. I am constantly telling her stories about him and try to reiterate what I have learned about Karma and LIFE. I may look into counseling for her, but currently, they are both honor roll students and are as vibrant as they can be.

I said all this to say that we don't realize how resilient children are. We as parents sometimes try to hide the truth in order to protect them, or think that they can't handle or understand what's going on but the truth and the constant conversations about the current happenings is what I believe has been key to grasping such a tremendous loss. There is no manual to life, or raising children, but a pure heart, good intentions, and the ACCEPTANCE of the PRESENT is vital to progress.




Lisa Bell

About the author:

Lisa is a freelance writer living in Florida. She was born in Canada but raised in New York and is from Indian decent, Trinidad actually. She moved to Florida in 1990 and has been working in corporate America for 16 years. She has two amazing children, a 15 year old son and 10 year old daughter and she is a widow. She enjoys reading, writing and socializing.

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Monday, November 19, 2012

Dr. Roz and Kil: Dating A Man Without A Degree Part 2

Dr. Roz and Kil continue their conversation about should a woman with a degree date a man who doesn't have a degree?


Dr. Roz and Kil

About the authors:

Dr. Roz and Kil are relationship coaches and the creators of Marriage Exposed. They have been coaching couples and families for over 5 years. With a mixture of therapeutical strategies, biblical principals, practicality and laughter, Dr. Roz and Kil not only coach couples through the hard times of their relationships but they continue to impart wisdom, after their storms have passed.

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Friday, November 16, 2012

Dr. Roz and Kil: Dating A Man Without A Degree Part 1

Dr. Roz and Kil chop it up about should a woman with a degree date a man who doesn't have a degree?


Dr. Roz and Kil

About the authors:

Dr. Roz and Kil are relationship coaches and the creators of Marriage Exposed. They have been coaching couples and families for over 5 years. With a mixture of therapeutical strategies, biblical principals, practicality and laughter, Dr. Roz and Kil not only coach couples through the hard times of their relationships but they continue to impart wisdom, after their storms have passed.

Follow them @ Twitter | Facebook

Thursday, November 15, 2012

Kil: The Big Payback

Most folk who come through here should know by now that I’m a BIG dog lover. I wanted to buy a blue pitbull named Danger and ended up with a Yorkie named Boots but I love my dude nonetheless. So every now and then I do the knowledge on trying to learn more about dogs and why they do what they do. The other day I was wondering why dogs like to be pet and I came across this article. Check it out…

From Petcentric.com:

"Dogs taken from abusive situations hold no grudges toward the human race. A half an ounce of kindness from a new person results in an abundance of affection from the formerly mistreated dog. Humans rarely have the capacity to so completely forgive and love under those circumstances.

Probably the biggest reason the dog has become man’s best friend is because we know that when it comes to love, a dog can always outdo us. The highest form of love, agape love, which is completely unconditional, is something that people often have to work at or grow into. Agape love seems to come naturally between parent and child, but it’s more difficult between husband and wife, and harder still between friends. To love someone regardless of what wrongs they have done you is very difficult for humans.

A dog, however, is born with an endless capacity for unconditional love, and doesn’t even have to work at it. You can be a complete grouch, ignore your dog, and refuse him your love. When you decide you’re ready to be sociable again, your dog doesn’t pay you back by ignoring you too. He’s just happy you’re there. More amazing still, is that the love that dogs and owners feel for each other lasts a lifetime. This is the ideal love humans strive for, but often fail at.

This is why we need dogs. They do something for us that rarely a human companion can do. No matter how much you mess up your life, or how much wrong you do, no matter how many mistakes you make or how often you make them, regardless of your looks, income or social standing, your dog never judges you. He always thinks you are wonderful and loves you with all his heart."
Boots standing guard while Nay washes the car...
There were a lot of things that stood out in this article for me but the main thing that stuck out was that the dog has no need or wants to pay you back for how you’ve treated them. They just want to move forward. And how many of us have THAT problem? You know...wanting to pay folk back who have wronged us or pissed us off. I know that was one of the things that I PRIDED myself on in the past. That if you did something to me, you could bet money it was gonna be coming back your way in a minute. And I gotta say that I was damn good on my pay back cause I could wait days, weeks, months even a year before the payback came your way. Because the whole point of the payback for me was that it had to look like it came natural. I didn’t want the chick to know that I was paying her back for what she had done to me because that would seem like I was petty right? (which I was) I wanted it to seem like “karma” was paying her back. And when you go for payback like that, you gotta be REAL patient. Patient like Jay Z said in “Dead President”…“and I got nothing but time.”

To be honest, that was one of the hardest things I had to change about myself when I got married. Because when Tee and I would get into arguments and she couldn’t see my side of things...my first reaction was always “oh, you gonna see my side of things. I’ll make sure of that!” But since I had just gotten saved, I was suppose to be doing things God’s way and not my way anymore…right? Fiiiiiiiiiine…but my first thought was “God, you better hurry up and take care of this and don’t be taking all day.” (yeah, I kinda talk to God like he’s my homeboy. I don’t do a lot of the “thee” and “Father God” convos) But the more I grew in knowing God, the more I realized that you can’t have a loving relationship whether it’s your marriage, with your sibling, parents or friends if all you’re worried about is constantly paying somebody back.


God showed me through time that it’s not about paying somebody back but allowing Him to show that person how you felt about the situation. Now whether that’s Him speaking to their heart or allowing them to go through a similar situation and allowing the shoe to be on the other foot, I’ve learned that God is gonna handle each and every situation better then we can. Now after 12 years of marriage, it’s REALLY hard to find a situation where Tanya doesn’t know my pain or vice versa because throughout the years God has placed both of us in each other’s shoes enough that now we can quickly say to each other, “I feel what your saying” and mean it. And a lot of times in our marriage or in any relationships, that’s all we really wanna hear, that the person we love knows and understands how we feel. So this week’s challenge is simple, dead the payback! No more “I’m gonna show him” or “I’m gonna show her.” Take a step back and let God show them what HE wants them to see, not you. I know it may take a minute, but trust me the waiting will mos def be worth it!



Kil

About the author:

Kil is a relationship coach, producer, writer, photographer, director and co-creator of Marriage Exposed. He has been married 12 years to his beautiful wife Tanya and they have a beautiful daughter together, Naomi. Through Marriage Exposed & coaching couples with Dr. Roz, Kil encourages people to always continue to fight for their marriages and relationships.

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Wednesday, November 14, 2012

On The Real: Missing Child - Kimora Gindraw

On a real serious note, my homegirl's daughter is missing! Her name is Kimora Grindraw and sometimes goes by Kimora Allen. She was last seen this morning (Tuesday November 13, 2012) outside her school Truebright Science Academy off Allegheny Ave. in Philadelphia. If you've seen her or have ANY info please contact her grandparents at (215)329-7973, her mother Tyekia's cell phone (754)245-4896, Ms. Helen @ (215)385-0065 or Mr. Muff @ (267)254-9176. Good looking...

Word Up Wednesdays...After The Storm

“I know, O Lord, that a man’s life is not his own; it is not for man to direct his steps.” – Jeremiah 10:23  

Tim Duncan, who plays for the San Antonio Spurs, is a four time NBA champion and a three times MVP in the NBA Finals. But he didn’t always dream of being a basketball star. As a child, he wanted to be an Olympic swimmer, and was training hard to achieve that goal. But when he was in the 9th grade, Hurricane Hugo hit the Virgin Islands and destroyed the only Olympic size pool on the islands. Rather than giving up and spending the rest of his life talking about what he could have done if life hadn’t treated him so unfairly, Duncan turned his talents to basketball. With the same hard work and determination he had applied to swimming, he now went in this new direction-and he succeeded. And he didn’t just make a name for himself and buy more and more stuff. He established his own foundation that supports programs in education, youth sports, and health awareness. The storm redirected him in ways that proved best.

If we trust God, He will use the storms in our lives to guide us in directions that we would never have considered on our own-directions that are far better than those we think we want to go. Whether a storm is a good thing or bad thing depends on our attitude. There is always a rainbow after a storm, if we look for it.

Prayer:
Father, we do believe that You are in control, even when situations in our lives appear out of control. We used to think that a storm could only be bad because of the destruction is causes. But we understand now that all things work together for good to those who love You and are called according to YOUR purpose. So, God, we’re going to look for the direction in which You are guiding us by the storms in our lives knowing that You will bring us to a better place. We trust You, Father. Amen.

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Tuesday, November 13, 2012

A Day In the Life of A Single Parent: Theme Music (Every Good Parent Should Have One)

Remember "I'm Gonna Git You Sucka?" I consider that movie a cult classic. There are too many funny scenes to name in this article but there is one that stood out for me. At the end of the movie, John Slade (Bernie Casey) noticed one of the most influential rap groups of all times, Boogie Down Productions walking behind Jack Spade (Keenan Ivory Wayans) and John Slade asked, “Who are those guys?” And Jack Spade said, “That’s my theme music. Every good hero should have some.”

That never left my mind and as a single parent it still comes to mind. I’m not ashamed to admit that "Hustlin" by Rick Ross was my theme song a couple of years ago. Of course, my "hustles" did not pertain to me dealing drugs on the streets but I needed the motivation to meet the cold mornings for work and drag my son to school as well. My son needed fifty layers of clothes (not that many but it felt that way) including a hat, a scarf and gloves. So while I am preparing him for the cold I would sing, “Everyday I’m Hustlin.” It was to the point my son would sing the same thing while he was walking out the door. You have to hype yourself up sometimes to get up and go to work. Katt Williams, in American Hustle, kept it real by saying that even if your job doesn’t require a hustle, you can get hype off the song "Hustlin." A librarian can get hype pushing books in a library. Everyone needs theme music to get their mind right for their job.


Athletes have a playlists to hype themselves up before the game. It has been cited online that one Olympic Gold Medalist has ‘Empire State Of Mind’ by Jay Z and Alicia Keys on their playlist. Parents need theme music to tackle the everyday grind. Every time my bills were staring me in the face, I would hear "Get By" by Talib Kweli in my mind. The streets are our playing field and we have to play the game every day. Sometimes there are interceptions from the opposite team (life, family, bills, haters, depression). Sometimes we have to make a first down and get flagged for holding (arguing, disagreements and drama). But in the end you need to score a touchdown. That’s life. So why not have some theme music to motivate you.

When you are trying to overcome depression, let Mary J. Blige’s "Breakthrough" be your theme music for the day. When you are unsatisfied with your financial situation, ‘Satisfied’ by Rachelle Ferrell can calm your worries a bit. Single parents when you go out with someone who wants the goods on the first night, let "Rolling Hills" by Jill Scott ring true in your head. Let, "God Didn’t Give Up On Me" by Deitrick Haddon be your theme music when dealing with feelings of worthlessness. What would I give to have Questlove drumming, Black Thought and Wale rhyming fluently and Chrisette Michele scatting behind me singing ‘Rising Up’ as I stroll down the street to join the daily rat race?

Since every good parent should theme music, what's yours?




Mar Na Carter

About the author:

Mar Na Carter is a proud parent and self-published author of Massive Thoughts: Free Verse Poetry. She resides in the 215 area code (Philadelphia) where she does spoken-word at various events and church functions. God has led her into the world of fiction and in the process of writing a Christian novel for young adults.

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Monday, November 12, 2012

Dr. Roz and Kil: Dr. Roz Droppin' Science

Kil sits back and let's Dr. Roz drop science on the "A&R's" of relationships.



Dr. Roz and Kil

About the authors:

Dr. Roz and Kil are relationship coaches and the creators of Marriage Exposed. They have been coaching couples and families for over 5 years. With a mixture of therapeutical strategies, biblical principals, practicality and laughter, Dr. Roz and Kil not only coach couples through the hard times of their relationships but they continue to impart wisdom, after their storms have passed.

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Sunday, November 11, 2012

Sensual Sundays: Double Trouble Volume 1

What's your #1 complaint about R&B music nowadays? Mine is that folk don't sing about love anymore. And some of the best loves song we've ever heard, were duets. Because you can't get more romantic then a man and woman singing to each about how much they're in love. So since we blessed ya'll with a banging sex mixtape the last go 'round with Trey Songz's bedroom bangers, let's get some love songs on tap this week with some classic R&B duets.

Tracklisting:
Make it Last Forever - Keith Sweat and Jacci McGhee
You Don't Have to Cry - Renee and Angela
With You I'm Born Again - Billy Preston and Syreeta
I Don't Wanna Do Anything Else - Mary J. Blige and K Ci
The Closer I Get to You - Donny Hathaway and Roberta Flack
Nuthin Even Matters - Lauryn Hill and D'Angelo
Fire and Desire - Rick James and Teena Marie
Endless Love - Lionel Richie and Diana Ross
If This World Were Mine - Luther Vandross and Cheryl Lynn
All The Times - LSG and Faith Evans, Coco and Missy Elliott
Spend A Lifetime - Eric Benet and Tamia
My First Love - Avant and KeKe Wyatt
Tonight I Celebrate My Love For You - Peabo Bryson and Roberta Flack
Make It Last Forever - Mariah Carey and Joe

Link:
Double Trouble Volume 1

Instructions On How to Download:

#1 - Click the link that will take you to sendspace.com and click the blue button that says "click here to start download from sendspace." DO NOT click any other "download" buttons.

#2 - Pick the destination of the download (exp. Desktop, C drive, My music, etc.)

#3 - Once the file is finished, it's in a zip file and you'll need to unzip it. Right click the zip file and click "extract" and it will pull the music out and put it in a regular folder with the mp3 files.

#4 - At this point you can play the files from your computer but if you want to burn them to CD put the mp3 files into your itunes, real player, etc. library and burn them to CD and enjoy!

Friday, November 9, 2012

Dr. Roz and Kil: Are There ANY Good Men Left?

Dr. Roz and Kil answer a follower's question, are there ANY good men out here?
 


Dr. Roz and Kil

About the authors:

Dr. Roz and Kil are relationship coaches and the creators of Marriage Exposed. They have been coaching couples and families for over 5 years. With a mixture of therapeutical strategies, biblical principals, practicality and laughter, Dr. Roz and Kil not only coach couples through the hard times of their relationships but they continue to impart wisdom, after their storms have passed.

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Thursday, November 8, 2012

Happy Birthday Naomi!!!!!

7 years ago, God blessed Tee and I with the greatest gift EVER, our beautiful daughter Naomi! This chick has been such a HUGE blessing in our lives that words can't begin to explain. No matter how much time goes by I always think about when we first found out we were having a girl and how depressed I was. I didn't think she would wanna do anything with me and she'd wanna do everything with Tee and I'd just be regulated to the dude who she asks for money from. But nothing could have been further from the truth! Nay is truly my mini me and from day one we've done almost everything together. From her going with me to graffiti exhibits, diggin' (record shopping) and to high school, college, NBA, WNBA basketball games and baseball games to her helping me wash the cars, fixing stuff around the house and laying sod in the back yard, Nay is always on my hip and I LOVE it! It's to the point that one night I was diggin' in Baltimore and I had a hoodie and fitted on and the owner couldn't see who I was and when he realized it was me he said "I've never seen you without Naomi so I didn't know it was you!" All of that to say that Tee and I wanna wish our baby girl the happiest birthday EVER! And today after school, we're surprising with a kid's spa for her and one of her classmates that's she's been begging us for...she should have a ball! Check out some flicks of Nay throughout the past 7 years...

















The Fab 5: Kil's Top 5 Movie Couples

If you know me, then you know I watch A LOT of movies. And I use a lot of stuff that I see in movies (at least the really good ones) to break down some of my different philosophies in relationships and in life. The other day I was chopping it up with Tee about who was the flyest movie couple EVER (like that's really a question) and I decided to come up with a list of my top 5. So check 'em out and I double dare ya'll to come up with some other couples that are flyer then these!

#5 Quincy & Monica from "Love and Basketball"

I can't front "Love and Basketball" isn't one of my favorite flicks, which is probably why Omar and Sanaa fall to my #5 spot. Now don't get it twisted, it's a cool flick...it just doesn't have a lot of replay value for me.

#4 Brian and Tracey from "Mahogany"

Even though "Mahogany" dropped when I was only 1 year old, this is a classic flick with a classic love story with the classic line that still rings true to this day "success in nothing without someone you love to share it with."

#3 Caine & Ronnie form "Menace To Society"

You GOTTA have a hood couple on this list cause I don't think anything is stronger then some good ole fashion hood love. And you don't get much more hood then Caine getting with his old head Pernell's baby moms right?

#2 Jason & Lyric from "Jason's Lyric"

Another classic love story taken straight out the pages of Shakespeare with his family beefin' with her family and everything standing in the way of their love. Not to mention, for this movie to have dropped in '94, it had some banging sex scenes!

#1 Darius & Nina from "Love Jones"

There's ABSOLUTELY no couple in the history of modern day cinema that's flyer then these two! Anybody care to disagree? Didn't think so...


Kil

About the author:

Kil is a relationship coach, producer, writer, photographer, director and co-creator of Marriage Exposed. He has been married 13 years to his beautiful wife Tanya and they have a beautiful daughter together, Naomi. Through Marriage Exposed & coaching couples with Dr. Roz, Kil encourages people to always continue to fight for their marriages and relationships.

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