Tuesday, November 13, 2012

A Day In the Life of A Single Parent: Theme Music (Every Good Parent Should Have One)

Remember "I'm Gonna Git You Sucka?" I consider that movie a cult classic. There are too many funny scenes to name in this article but there is one that stood out for me. At the end of the movie, John Slade (Bernie Casey) noticed one of the most influential rap groups of all times, Boogie Down Productions walking behind Jack Spade (Keenan Ivory Wayans) and John Slade asked, “Who are those guys?” And Jack Spade said, “That’s my theme music. Every good hero should have some.”

That never left my mind and as a single parent it still comes to mind. I’m not ashamed to admit that "Hustlin" by Rick Ross was my theme song a couple of years ago. Of course, my "hustles" did not pertain to me dealing drugs on the streets but I needed the motivation to meet the cold mornings for work and drag my son to school as well. My son needed fifty layers of clothes (not that many but it felt that way) including a hat, a scarf and gloves. So while I am preparing him for the cold I would sing, “Everyday I’m Hustlin.” It was to the point my son would sing the same thing while he was walking out the door. You have to hype yourself up sometimes to get up and go to work. Katt Williams, in American Hustle, kept it real by saying that even if your job doesn’t require a hustle, you can get hype off the song "Hustlin." A librarian can get hype pushing books in a library. Everyone needs theme music to get their mind right for their job.

Athletes have a playlists to hype themselves up before the game. It has been cited online that one Olympic Gold Medalist has ‘Empire State Of Mind’ by Jay Z and Alicia Keys on their playlist. Parents need theme music to tackle the everyday grind. Every time my bills were staring me in the face, I would hear "Get By" by Talib Kweli in my mind. The streets are our playing field and we have to play the game every day. Sometimes there are interceptions from the opposite team (life, family, bills, haters, depression). Sometimes we have to make a first down and get flagged for holding (arguing, disagreements and drama). But in the end you need to score a touchdown. That’s life. So why not have some theme music to motivate you.

When you are trying to overcome depression, let Mary J. Blige’s "Breakthrough" be your theme music for the day. When you are unsatisfied with your financial situation, ‘Satisfied’ by Rachelle Ferrell can calm your worries a bit. Single parents when you go out with someone who wants the goods on the first night, let "Rolling Hills" by Jill Scott ring true in your head. Let, "God Didn’t Give Up On Me" by Deitrick Haddon be your theme music when dealing with feelings of worthlessness. What would I give to have Questlove drumming, Black Thought and Wale rhyming fluently and Chrisette Michele scatting behind me singing ‘Rising Up’ as I stroll down the street to join the daily rat race?

Since every good parent should theme music, what's yours?

Mar Na Carter

About the author:

Mar Na Carter is a proud parent and self-published author of Massive Thoughts: Free Verse Poetry. She resides in the 215 area code (Philadelphia) where she does spoken-word at various events and church functions. God has led her into the world of fiction and in the process of writing a Christian novel for young adults.

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