Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Living Singe: Marriage Vows Exposed Part 2

Thank you all for the great feedback you gave in response to September's intro to the wedding vows.

First off, marriage is a good thing, designed by God himself. But with anything in life, there are ups and downs. I often hear married couples say that no one told them just how hard marriage would be and how they now feel ill-prepared to handle the challenges they’re facing. While none of us can predict the challenges that will arise in a marriage, I think that coupled with common sense, the traditional wedding vows pretty much gives us great insight into what we’ll be signing up for. Perhaps this is why some couples opt to write their own vows!

So this month let’s check out vow #2: “To HaveAnd To Hold, From This Day Forward.”

1 Corinthians 7:2 helped me understand this vowa much better. It reads: “but, because of sexual immoralities, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.”This speaks of sexual exclusivity and intimacy that is to be shared between a husband and wife, thus eliminating the need to sleep around. In other words, you’re vowing to be faithful…to one person…your spouse…for the rest of your life.

Marriage is not for the immature, nor is it for the naive. Life happens and temptation is something that affects all of us, yet not all of us choose to pursue.

Deciding to be faithful to the same person for the rest of your life may be difficult to wrap your mind around, but it is required and expected in a marriage. If your husband loses his job or your wife becomes chronically ill, that’s not your license to start playing with fire by spilling your guts to the ever so attentive girl or guy that always seems to be available when you need to talk. You are however, licensed by marriage and required to uphold your end of the vows. You find that you’re no longer attracted to your spouse? Guess what, he/she probably feels the same about you! There is no scenario in a marriage that should make you be unfaithful. You get no pass.

On the other side of the beautiful wedding and lavish honeymoon awaits real lifeonce you cross the threshold.Will you be willing to find the escape route out of your temptations to protect your marriage or will you exacerbate the problems at home by deciding to cheat? Acknowledging ahead of time that there will be challenges along this journey and resolving to maturely handle them is half the battle. Marriage is a job and anyone who has read a job description has seen some variation of the words"and other duties as assigned" listed. So check back next time to for the next round of vows to see if you have what it takes to put in the work!



About the author:

Amber is a freelance writer living in Hampton Roads, Virginia. After giving her life to Jesus Christ over 12 years ago, Amber obeyed the urging of the Holy Spirit to serve others who are in need. Amber often meets and encourages single adults to make smart personal decisions that will lead not only to wise relationship choices, but also improve the overall quality of their lives.

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