How Do I Get My Husband To Stop Being Selfish With Sex?

Dr. Roz and Kil give advice on how a wife can get her husband to stop being selfish in the bedroom.

Should A Married Couple Attend Different Churches?

Dr. Roz and Kil break down should a married couple attend different churches.

My Husband Is Addicted To Drugs!

Dr. Roz and Kil give advice to a wife who's husband is addicted to drugs.

My Husband NEVER Sacrifices For Me!

Dr. Roz and Kil give advice to a wife who's husband doesn't sacrifice for her.

How Do I Tell My Family I'm Marrying Outside My Race?

Dr. Roz and Kil answer a question about marrying outside your race.

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Have you ever wondered what you'd get if you took a clinical psychologist and a hip hop producer and gave them a blog that dealt with marriage, relationships and everything in between? Probably not...BUT if you did, then you'd have Marriage Exposed! With a mixture of therapeutical strategies, biblical principals, practicality and laughter, Dr. Roz and Kil not only coach couples through the "hard times" of their relationships but they continue to impart wisdom, after their storms have passed. Send us your questions or comments and join the conversation!

Sunday, January 20, 2013

Sensual Sundays: The Best of Keith Sweat


If R. Kelly was the soundtrack to my college years then Keith Swear was the soundtrack to my late middle school/early high school years. When I used to DJ parties around my way on Philly, there was no way I couldn't throw on a Keith Sweat banger to keep my crew happy so they could get some "wall time" in with whatever shorty they were checking for. So, if you're my age, throw on this best of Keith Sweat and reminisce back on your high school days when things were SO much simpler.

Tracklisting:
Make It Last Forever featuring Jacci McGhee
There You Go Telling Me No
Nobody
Keep It Coming
I'll Give All My Love To You (interlude)
I'll Give All My Love To You
How Deep Is You Love
Merry Go Round
I Want Her
Nobody featuring Kut Klose
In The Rain
Twisted
Right and A Wrong Way
Why Me
Don't Stop Your Love

Link:
The Best of Keith Sweat


Instructions On How to Download: 
#1 - Click the link that will take you to sendspace.com and click the blue button that says "click here to start download from sendspace." DO NOT click any other "download" buttons.

#2 - Pick the destination of the download (exp. Desktop, C drive, My music, etc.)

#3 - Once the file is finished, it's in a zip file and you'll need to unzip it. Right click the zip file and click "extract" and it will pull the music out and put it in a regular folder with the mp3 files.

#4 - At this point you can play the files from your computer but if you want to burn them to CD put the mp3 files into your itunes, real player, etc. library and burn them to CD and enjoy!

Friday, January 18, 2013

A Day In The Life of A Single Parent: Is Chivalry Dead?

I guarantee you that someone has said, “chivalry is dead.”

I have even proclaimed it when I went out on dates with men that wouldn’t hold the door for me to go into a restaurant. I want to know what happened!

Is it the man’s fault for losing the lack of care and generosity towards a woman due to not being raised to respect and honor women? Or maybe it is the woman’s fault because we want to be so independent sometimes that we fail to acknowledge that we have moments of vulnerability and desires to be cared for. I know we sing anthems like “I’m a Survivor” and “Independent Women” while throwing our hands up in the air but it still feels good for a guy to walk the curbside of the sidewalk and let you feel he has some sort of etiquette. It also feels good when you are in a restaurant with a man and he says, “I will pay for it.” Don’t you want to feel like you are being taken care of to some degree? Come on, admit it. You know you want to.

I am not saying that you want flowers at your doorstep every day and pitch a hissy fit if he forgets to open the car door for you. But lately, I have heard complaints from women stating that the guy beeps his car horn for them to come outside, instead of coming to the door to meet them. Steve Harvey made some valid key points in the movie, Think Like A Man. When Zeke (Romany Malco) didn’t open the car door for Mya (Meagan Goode) that was a prime example of how far we have come in the dating world. Are you the chirp, chirp girl? (Watch Think Like A Man, if you haven’t already) Or are you asking that he get out the car and open the car door for you? Hey, how ‘bout the gentleman get out of his car and knocks on your door, to let you know he has arrived.

In order to receive proper care, we have to care for ourselves. Maybe some of us are not setting standards as women and that is why the men treat us any kind of way. I will not leave this all on the women either. I have witnessed certain men watch a pregnant woman struggle to get on the bus with her toddler, while he sits there as if she doesn’t need a seat. Or they are beating you to the bus door when it opens.

So is chivalry dead? I can’t totally say yes. I have witnessed gentlemen holding doors, opening up the car door for their women and walking the curbside while the lady walks inside of the sidewalk. I am trying to raise my son to grab a bag to help a woman out, hold the door for her and pay the check when you are out on a date. He is going to get married one day and he needs to know how to take care of his wife. I have to admit that some women raise their child to take care of them. It’s almost as if their sons are their husbands. But that’s another subject for an upcoming article.

So I will give a shout out to the gentlemen that continue to show chivalry. I appreciate you. Ladies and gents what are your thoughts?



Mar Na Carter

About the author:

Mar Na Carter is a proud parent and self-published author of Massive Thoughts: Free Verse Poetry. She resides in the 215 area code (Philadelphia) where she does spoken-word at various events and church functions. God has led her into the world of fiction and in the process of writing a Christian novel for young adults.

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Wednesday, January 16, 2013

The G Spot: Separate But Together

I have now been with my wife almost 14 years and married close to 7 and in that time we have gone thru many different phases, highs and lows, ups and downs, etc. but what I have realized the most is that the old adage is true for the most part, "absence does make the heart grow fonder!" Now let me clarify, when I say absence I don't mean running away from home and being gone weeks or months but we are all human and sometimes we need a break from even the one we love the most.

I feel like each person was an individual before they become married or even a couple so even though you are together as one now there should be some areas in your life that are yours. Whether its a hobby, working out, or hanging out with friends, your individuality is a major part of what made you attractive to your S/O or spouse. Sometimes working different schedules is sufficent enough for a couple so the days when you are together don't get stale. That time you are apart, if you are really committed to being with that other person, will give you time to miss that person and look forward to spending time with that person. Your spontaneity and creativity will be heightened so that when you have that time together it will be more rewarding.

What I have found in my marriage is that we are opposites. We are like night & day, oil & water....she goes up, I go down so to speak.....lol. What does work though is finding time for the things we do enjoy together like going to the movies or going out to eat. Other times when we are apart you have to remain secure in yourself to let your S/O keep their individuality cause that's a major part of what attracted you to them in the first place.



Gregg Pickett

About the author:

Gregg is a freelance writer from Philadelphia. Gregg recently celebrated his 6th Wedding Anniversary and he speaks to a lot of the things he didn't originally know in the beginning of his relationship and hopes that he can share that knowledge with those who are striving for better relationships so they can avoid some of the pitfalls he has encountered.

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Sunday, January 6, 2013

Sensual Sundays: The Best of Chante Moore

I truly believe that Chante Moore is one of the lost voices of our generation. What do I mean by that? Well, to me everything in life is about timing and when Chante dropped in '92, music was knee deep in hip hop and anything else wasn't REALLY gonna break through without some kinda hip hop sound to it and that wasn't Chante. Now don't get it twisted, cats know Chante but they don't KNOW Chante like they should have. But if Chante would've dropped in '99 when the whole "neo soul" sound was coming into play trust me, her name would be mentioned amongst the greats of our generation. If you've been sleeping on shorty, please stop immediately and download my best of Chante Moore mixtape.

Tracklisting: 
Chante's Got A Man
Love's Taken Over
I'm What You Need
Bitter
Easy
Always Gonna Be Something
It's Alright
Wey U
Train of Thought
You Don't Have To Cry feat. Kenny Lattimore
Candlelight and You feat. Keith Washington
With You I'm Born Again feat. Kenny Lattimore
Listen To My Song
A Love's Supreme
Special
I'm Keeping You
It Ain't Suppose To Be That Way

Link:
The Best of Chante Moore


Instructions On How to Download:
#1 - Click the link that will take you to sendspace.com and click the blue button that says "click here to start download from sendspace." DO NOT click any other "download" buttons.

#2 - Pick the destination of the download (exp. Desktop, C drive, My music, etc.)

#3 - Once the file is finished, it's in a zip file and you'll need to unzip it. Right click the zip file and click "extract" and it will pull the music out and put it in a regular folder with the mp3 files. 

#4 - At this point you can play the files from your computer but if you want to burn them to CD put the mp3 files into your itunes, real player, etc. library and burn them to CD and enjoy! 

Friday, January 4, 2013

Support: The Black Marriage Fest

For the next 29 days Marriage Exposed will be supporting the Black Marriage Fest that's slated to take place in New Orleans this year. If you're familiar with Marriage Exposed then you know Dr. Roz and I are ALWAYS looking to support events, books, art, music movies, etc. that not only support relationships and marriage but that also support families, children and our communities. We truly believe that this event would be an amazing opportunities for couples to be able get together to not only chop it up about the ups and downs of marriage but to also come together to help support each other along this wonderful, crazy ride. As always, if you feel led to contribute financially to this event you can do so here and if you can't contribute financially, please spread the event's link to your friends, family and networks to help get the word out there!

You can follow the event's director on Twitter @Sharita Cenac and @Black Marriage Fest.

Thursday, January 3, 2013

The Fab Five: 5 New Years Resolution For Your Marriage in 2013

Written by Kil

Since the New Year is upon us and we just ran through the Marriage Exposed team's New Years resolutions, I wanted to share my top 5 New Year's resolutions that every couple should definitely make happen in 2013.

1. Get A Show To Watch Together. One of the number one complaints Dr. Roz and I hear from couples is that they don't spend a lot of time together. Hell, to be honest most married couples don't spend anytime together. So what's one of the easiest ways to start spending time together? Find at least one good television show (if not more) and make that your "in house date night." Not only will you get to watch a dope show with your other half but it will give ya'll a chance to start spending more time around each other.

2. Read The Bible Together. Now I know everyone isn't a christian or even religious for that matter, but truth be told, the bible has a lot of GREAT instructions for marriage that we ALL can learn from. And trust me, what the bible says about marriage will only help your marriage, not hurt it. I can tell you this though, if you want to have a GREAT marriage (not just a sub par, good or aiight marriage) you and your spouse should be spending at least one night a week doing a bible study together. Whether that's doing a couples devotion or actually reading the bible together and discussing anything that stands out to you, I truly believe this is the most important thing you could be doing to invest in your marriage in 2013.

3. Have A Monthly Date Night. I know that in most marriages you've got both people working, commutes, kids, homework, basketball, cheerleading, girl scouts, etc. etc. so there's a shortage of time for those "out of the house" date nights BUT we gotta make sure that we still date each other. So with time being a factor, a weekly date night may be out of the question but you gotta get at least one "out of the house" date night in every month. And don't sweat it if money is tight check, just check out my Fab Five Cheap Dates.

4. Work Out Together. Unless you and your significant other are marathon runners or health nuts, then you're both 9 times outta 10 putting on some extra pounds that ya'll could stand to get rid of. So why not do it together?



5. Have More Sex AND Better Sex. My former Pastor John K. Jenkins Sr. representing the First Baptist Church of Glenarden always says he spends most of his time trying to get single people to STOP having sex and trying to get married people to START having sex! So us married folk need to not only start having sex (with our spouse that is) but we need to start having more sex AND better sex! A lot of time as couples we never talk to each other about sex, what we like, what turns us on, what we wanna try, etc. and that's gotta stop! Dwayne Wade said his college coach at Marquette told him every year he needs to bring something new to his game and I say every couple should follow that same advice. So my challenge in 2013 for ya'll is that EVERY married couple needs to bring something new (ONLY between ya'll two...sorry ya'll I ain't co-signing no menages) to the bedroom!



Kil

About the author:

Kil is a relationship coach, producer, writer, photographer, director and co-creator of Marriage Exposed. He has been married 12 years to his beautiful wife Tanya and they have a beautiful daughter together, Naomi. Through Marriage Exposed & coaching couples with Dr. Roz, Kil encourages people to always continue to fight for their marriages and relationships.

Follow him @ Twitter | Website | Facebook

Wednesday, January 2, 2013

Date Night: Kenneth Whallum III in the DMV Jan. 25-26th

Any jazz heads out there? If so, and you live in the DMV (DC, Maryland and Virginia) the homie Kenneth Whallum III is coming to D.C. and will be performing at Bohemian Caverns, January 25-26th for 4 shows which are gonna be REAL dope! If you're not up on Kenneth Whallum III, money is the nephew of jazz GREAT Kirk Whallum and has played for everybody from Maxwell, Bilal, Fantasia and Beyonce to Mary J. Blige, Snoop, Al Green, Joss Stone and Jay Z. As a matter of fact, he wrote the horn arrangement for Jay's "Roc Boys." So trust, money is nice. Check out his newest release "To Those Who Believe" here and you can cop tickets here. Trust, I've already got mine...