Wednesday, January 16, 2013

The G Spot: Separate But Together

I have now been with my wife almost 14 years and married close to 7 and in that time we have gone thru many different phases, highs and lows, ups and downs, etc. but what I have realized the most is that the old adage is true for the most part, "absence does make the heart grow fonder!" Now let me clarify, when I say absence I don't mean running away from home and being gone weeks or months but we are all human and sometimes we need a break from even the one we love the most.

I feel like each person was an individual before they become married or even a couple so even though you are together as one now there should be some areas in your life that are yours. Whether its a hobby, working out, or hanging out with friends, your individuality is a major part of what made you attractive to your S/O or spouse. Sometimes working different schedules is sufficent enough for a couple so the days when you are together don't get stale. That time you are apart, if you are really committed to being with that other person, will give you time to miss that person and look forward to spending time with that person. Your spontaneity and creativity will be heightened so that when you have that time together it will be more rewarding.

What I have found in my marriage is that we are opposites. We are like night & day, oil & water....she goes up, I go down so to speak.....lol. What does work though is finding time for the things we do enjoy together like going to the movies or going out to eat. Other times when we are apart you have to remain secure in yourself to let your S/O keep their individuality cause that's a major part of what attracted you to them in the first place.



Gregg Pickett

About the author:

Gregg is a freelance writer from Philadelphia. Gregg recently celebrated his 6th Wedding Anniversary and he speaks to a lot of the things he didn't originally know in the beginning of his relationship and hopes that he can share that knowledge with those who are striving for better relationships so they can avoid some of the pitfalls he has encountered.

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