How Do I Get My Husband To Stop Being Selfish With Sex?

Dr. Roz and Kil give advice on how a wife can get her husband to stop being selfish in the bedroom.

Should A Married Couple Attend Different Churches?

Dr. Roz and Kil break down should a married couple attend different churches.

My Husband Is Addicted To Drugs!

Dr. Roz and Kil give advice to a wife who's husband is addicted to drugs.

My Husband NEVER Sacrifices For Me!

Dr. Roz and Kil give advice to a wife who's husband doesn't sacrifice for her.

How Do I Tell My Family I'm Marrying Outside My Race?

Dr. Roz and Kil answer a question about marrying outside your race.

Marriage Exposed is the website that talks about what marriage REALLY is...work. It's some of the best work you can sign up for but nevertheless, it's work.

Have you ever wondered what you'd get if you took a clinical psychologist and a hip hop producer and gave them a blog that dealt with marriage, relationships and everything in between? Probably not...BUT if you did, then you'd have Marriage Exposed! With a mixture of therapeutical strategies, biblical principals, practicality and laughter, Dr. Roz and Kil not only coach couples through the "hard times" of their relationships but they continue to impart wisdom, after their storms have passed. Send us your questions or comments and join the conversation!

Wednesday, February 27, 2013

Video Soul: "Shake Her Hand" - Eric Roberson

The question that Roz and I get asked the most is, why do married men cheat? And just the other day in our facebook group this cat who's about to get married asked the group, how do married men stay faithful? Well, they're a lot of answers to both of those questions, but Eric Roberson's new video "Shake Her Hand" gives us some insight into at least one way that men can stay faithful.
 

Tuesday, February 26, 2013

A Song For You: "Afro Queen (Your Fro)" - Tony Blount

This banger right here comes from the DMV's very own Tony Blount. This dude mos def has next in this R&B game so ya'll might as well get used to the name. Check out more of his stuff over at his Soundcloud Page and follow him on Twitter.

"Afro Queen (Your Fro) - Tony Blount (Produced by So Fo Real Productions)

Monday, February 25, 2013

Dr. Roz and Kil: "7 Reasons To Seek Marriage Counseling Part 2"


Dr. Roz and Kil are still chopping it up about their series, the 7 reasons to seek marriage counseling. Part 2 deals with when both parties in the marriage have considered or have cheated.

 


Dr. Roz and Kil

About the authors:

Dr. Roz and Kil are relationship coaches and the creators of Marriage Exposed. They have been coaching couples and families for over 5 years. With a mixture of therapeutical strategies, biblical principals, practicality and laughter, Dr. Roz and Kil not only coach couples through the hard times of their relationships but they continue to impart wisdom, after their storms have passed.

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Friday, February 22, 2013

Dr. Roz and Kil: "7 Reasons To Seek Marriage Counseling Part 1"


Dr. Roz and Kil start a new series called 7 reasons to seek marriage counseling. Part 1 deals with communication.
 


Dr. Roz and Kil

About the authors:

Dr. Roz and Kil are relationship coaches and the creators of Marriage Exposed. They have been coaching couples and families for over 5 years. With a mixture of therapeutical strategies, biblical principals, practicality and laughter, Dr. Roz and Kil not only coach couples through the hard times of their relationships but they continue to impart wisdom, after their storms have passed.

Follow them @ Twitter | Facebook

Wednesday, February 20, 2013

Phynyx Ministries: "An Interview With the Ex-Husband of A Sexual Assault Survivor"


Hey Marriage Exposed Family! To God be the Glory for the wonderful things He has done! I had the pleasure of interviewing my brother in Christ, who is a true Man-of-God, husband, father and the ex-husband of a Survivor of sexual violence which was committed by her father.

Statics show that 44% of survivors are under the age of 18; 80% are under age 30. Girls ages 16-19 are 4 times more likely than the general population to be survivors of rape, attempted rape, or sexual assault. Did you also know that, 93% of juvenile sexual assault survivors know their attacker? (stats provided by RAINN.org)

My prayer is that this interview will bless all who read it, but that it will also help someone or a couple that may be experiencing this issue right now. This is real and there are a lot of us who are suffering in silence which is murdering our relationships and marriages.

AW: Did you know that your ex-wife had survived sexual violence prior to marrying her?

MH: No

AW: When did she tell you and what was your reaction?

MH: It was during an intimate moment, when I was trying to get her in the mood, but as usual she didn’t feel like it. After trying to talk, persuade and beg her, that’s when she yelled out in anger, “How would I like it if someone tried to force their tongue down your throat whenever they felt like it because that’s what my father did to me”. And that’s how I was making her feel. My reaction was, what the hell did I get myself into?

AW: How did the wounds of sexual violence affect your marriage?

MH: For me, I couldn’t feel the affection that I needed in the relationship because I was always pushed away whether it was emotional or physical. All intimate encounters where on her terms. I couldn’t be spontaneous, I wasn’t in control, and that frustrated me. She never said sorry for anything, it was always my fault.

AW: How did they affect you as her husband?

MH: I learned to be much more patient and understanding. I felt like I couldn’t be the man God wanted me to be. (love your wife like Jesus loved the church) She didn’t know what real love was. I felt like I couldn’t love her with my whole heart, because I didn’t want to get rejected.

AW: What was her behavior pattern?

MH: She knew everything, couldn’t tell her nothing, always tried to force her opinion down your throat. Not a very affectionate person towards me or the kids.

AW: Did she ever seek counseling?

MH: No, even though several times I offered to go with her.

AW: How long did the marriage last and what made you stay in the marriage as long as you did?

MH: The marriage lasted 12 years. The kids and I wanted to honor God and my vows (‘til death do us part).

AW: Was the fact that she suffered from sexual violence the reason the marriage ended?

MH: No. I realized that I love myself more, and that you can’t love someone if they don’t love themselves.

AW: What advice would you give to men who are dating or married to a woman who has been sexually assaulted and are very discouraged right now?

MH: If you are dating, ask those tough questions…have you ever been molested, have you been to counseling? If you are married, prayer. Cover your house and anoint your wife with oil even while she sleeps. Pray for her daily. Show her intimacy without sex. Be very patient without losing yourself. And please introduce counseling to her in an inviting way.◊

If you are the survivor in the relationship who has not broken your silence of being molested, raped or sexually violated in anyway, I implore you to please tell your significant other or someone you can trust! Now, I know that it is easier said than done (believe me I definitely know), but if he/she truly loves you, he/she will remain by your side and walk with you through your healing process. And if not, they just may give you the “Deuces” and be out. I pray that the latter doesn’t happen, but in the even that it does, just look at it as God showing you that he/she really did not love you.

I hope that this article has helped someone to get a better understanding of what may be happening in their relationship or that it has given someone the courage to have that terrifyingly necessary conversation with their loved one. Feel free to reach out to me with any questions or concerns at phynyxministries@gmail.com. Until we meet again, be encouraged and know that your past does not define you. You can pick up the pieces and move forward with your life and relationship.


Angela Wharton

About the author:

Angela D. Wharton is a woman of enormous faith and is the visionary, founder and leader of Phynyx Ministries, a faith inspired advocacy and support program for survivors of sexual assaults. A survivor of a sexual assault herself, Angela is a devoted wife and mother of two young girls on an unchartered mission of healing, wholeness, empowerment and love.

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Tuesday, February 19, 2013

A Song For You: "A Couple of Forevers" - Chrisette Michele

"I'm the only one/you're the only one/together til never/I'm talking about forever/just a couple of forevers."

Another dope banger on tap from Ms. Chrisette Michele...shorty can't miss in my eyes right about now.

"A Couple of Forevers" - Chrisete Michelle (Produced by Pop and Oak)

Monday, February 18, 2013

Dr. Roz & Kil: "I Don't Want To Take My Fiance's Last Name"


Dr. Roz and Kil answer one of their follower's question about her not wanting to take her fiance's last name.



Dr. Roz and Kil

About the authors:

Dr. Roz and Kil are relationship coaches and the creators of Marriage Exposed. They have been coaching couples and families for over 5 years. With a mixture of therapeutical strategies, biblical principals, practicality and laughter, Dr. Roz and Kil not only coach couples through the hard times of their relationships but they continue to impart wisdom, after their storms have passed.

Follow them @ Twitter | Facebook

Sunday, February 17, 2013

Sensual Sundays: Unplugged Vol. 1


To me, nuthin' beats a dope live show from one of your fave artists. And since I don't get a chance to see my favorite artists live on the norm, I started this Unplugged mixtapes series with a rack of 'em live in concert. Check out the first volume...

Tracklisting:
The Suite Urban Theme - Maxwell
Believe - Raheem DeVaughn Send It On - D'Angelo
If I Don't Have You - Alicia Keys
Charlene - Anthony Hamilton
The Way - Jill Scott
Getting Late - Floetry
Cherish the Day - Sade
Ye Yo - Erykah Badu
Makings of You - Curtis Mayfield
Woman's Work - Alicia Keys
Still A Man - Raphael Saadiq
Untitled - D'Angelo

Link:
Unplugged Vol. 1


Instructions On How to Download:
#1 - Click the link that will take you to sendspace.com and click the blue button that says "click here to start download from sendspace." DO NOT click any other "download" buttons.

#2 - Pick the destination of the download (exp. Desktop, C drive, My music, etc.)

#3 - Once the file is finished, it's in a zip file and you'll need to unzip it. Right click the zip file and click "extract" and it will pull the music out and put it in a regular folder with the mp3 files.

#4 - At this point you can play the files from your computer but if you want to burn them to CD put the mp3 files into your itunes, real player, etc. library and burn them to CD and enjoy!

Thursday, February 14, 2013

A Day In The Life of A Single Parent: Things To Do For Singles On Valentine's Day


As a single, it’s pretty hard to keep a straight face when Valentine’s Day comes around. For some it’s just another day, but for others it’s a reminder that they are still SINGLE! So to help you blow off those Valentine’s Day Blues, I will give you some things to consider.

1. Treat yourself. On Valentine’s Day I usually treat myself to a nice meal or something sweet. If you are on a diet, try shopping at the Incredible Edibles store and get chocolate covered strawberries or just sweet fruit. If you have some extra money, get a manicure or pedicure. You deserve to love yourself. I believe a lot of us lack this trait at times and have to remind ourselves that we come first.

2. Go Out With Your Friends. Plan a gathering or go out to dinner with your friends. In the past, I have attended dinner parties for singles and had a great time. It took away from the feeling of loneliness. You can enjoy yourself and laugh to your heart’s content. That’s what friends are for. If Valentine’s Day is not a good day to hang out, plan the event on a day/evening that will be conducive to everyone.

3. Watch A Non Romantic Movie. I'm a hopeless romantic. But there are times when I get tired of watching romantic movies on the Hallmark Channel that remind me that I'm single. After watching too many ‘tear-jerking movie’ that end of making you feel like crap, you began to wonder if you will die alone with a bunch of cats crawling over your body. Let’s keep it real. So to take away the feeling of hopelessness, watch movies that help you forget about all the hoopla of Valentine’s Day. I must admit I am a true horror fan, so the movie ‘Halloween’ seems to do the trick. Lifetime movies about people making wrong choices in relationships, helps you appreciate singleness as well lol! Trust me on this.

4. Make Your Children Your Valentines. Every year, I either order a Valentine’s Day gift or buy something that my son will cherish. We spend time with each other and usually eat chocolate to our heart's content. I guarantee your children will love you for it!

5. God. John 3:16 says – God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son. Whosoever believes in him, shall not perish and have eternal life. What a love? So if you think you are lonely, remember God loves you. He can be your Valentine’s Date as well. Spend time with him. He would be so pleased to know you choose him as your date.


Mar Na Carter

About the author:

Mar Na Carter is a proud parent and self-published author of Massive Thoughts: Free Verse Poetry. She resides in the 215 area code (Philadelphia) where she does spoken-word at various events and church functions. God has led her into the world of fiction and in the process of writing a Christian novel for young adults.

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Tuesday, February 12, 2013

Living Single: Celebrating Valentine's Day On A Budget


These are challenging financial times to say the least, but it doesn’t change the fact that if you are in a relationship with someone whom you really care about, you want to do something nice together on Valentine’s Day.

So, here are some ideas for those who are on a budget to have a great Valentine’s Day experience!

  • Skip dinner at the high priced restaurant and go out for dessert instead
  • Cater to your significant other’s guilty pleasures.  
  • Guys, if your lady enjoys a tabloid, kettle corn and a Sprite, make her a gift basket with her favorites.  
  • Ladies, if your man gets a kick out of watching old-school “professional” wrestling, buy him some Legends of Wrestling DVDs that feature Jimmy “Superfly” Snuka, Junkyard Dog, and Andre The Giant. 
  • Guys, if it doesn’t interfere with your own job, skip the florist and show up at her job yourself with a few of her favorite flowers and/or take her to lunch.
  • Perhaps your mate is a big coffee or tea drinker.  If it fits into your budget, he or she will enjoy the Keurig!
  • Ladies, treat him to the new action movie he’s been waiting to see.
  • Guys if you’re a beast in the kitchen, let your inner Emeril shine, put your culinary skills to work and fix your lady a meal she’ll never forget!
  • If your mate is really into chocolates and other Valentine’s Day related candy, wait a day or two after when it will be discounted!
  • If you don’t have extra money to spend this year, relax and enjoy each other’s company.   Watch your favorite movie together or check out free things to do in your area like the museum.    
  • Create a coupon book for your significant other that includes things that you will do for him/her like a coupon to treat him to a local sporting event or to treat her to a mani/pedi.

Speaking of coupons, don’t forget to check out coupon sites like www.groupon.com or www.livingsocial.com!
Everyone’s budget varies, so have fun and be as creative as possible!  Happy Valentine’s Day!



Amber

About the author:

Amber Thompson is a freelance writer living in Hampton Roads, Virginia. After giving her life to Jesus Christ over 12 years ago, Amber obeyed the urging of the Holy Spirit to serve others who are in need. Amber often meets and encourages single adults to make smart personal decisions that will lead not only to wise relationship choices, but also improve the overall quality of their lives.

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