How Do I Get My Husband To Stop Being Selfish With Sex?

Dr. Roz and Kil give advice on how a wife can get her husband to stop being selfish in the bedroom.

Should A Married Couple Attend Different Churches?

Dr. Roz and Kil break down should a married couple attend different churches.

My Husband Is Addicted To Drugs!

Dr. Roz and Kil give advice to a wife who's husband is addicted to drugs.

My Husband NEVER Sacrifices For Me!

Dr. Roz and Kil give advice to a wife who's husband doesn't sacrifice for her.

How Do I Tell My Family I'm Marrying Outside My Race?

Dr. Roz and Kil answer a question about marrying outside your race.

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Have you ever wondered what you'd get if you took a clinical psychologist and a hip hop producer and gave them a blog that dealt with marriage, relationships and everything in between? Probably not...BUT if you did, then you'd have Marriage Exposed! With a mixture of therapeutical strategies, biblical principals, practicality and laughter, Dr. Roz and Kil not only coach couples through the "hard times" of their relationships but they continue to impart wisdom, after their storms have passed. Send us your questions or comments and join the conversation!

Friday, June 28, 2013

Dr. Roz and Kil: "My Husband HATES The Fact That I'm SO Outgoing!"


Dr. Roz and Kil give advice to wife who's dealing with a husband who HATES the fact that she's SO outgoing.
 


Dr. Roz and Kil

About the authors:

Dr. Roz and Kil are relationship coaches and the creators of Marriage Exposed. They have been coaching couples and families for over 5 years. With a mixture of therapeutical strategies, biblical principals, practicality and laughter, Dr. Roz and Kil not only coach couples through the hard times of their relationships but they continue to impart wisdom, after their storms have passed.

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Monday, June 24, 2013

Dr. Roz and Kil: My Husband Is Addicted To Drugs

Dr. Roz and Kil give a wife advice on how to deal with her husband, who's addicted to drugs.
 


Dr. Roz and Kil

About the authors:

Dr. Roz and Kil are relationship coaches and the creators of Marriage Exposed. They have been coaching couples and families for over 5 years. With a mixture of therapeutical strategies, biblical principals, practicality and laughter, Dr. Roz and Kil not only coach couples through the hard times of their relationships but they continue to impart wisdom, after their storms have passed.

Follow them @ Twitter | Facebook

Sunday, June 23, 2013

Sensual Sundays: The Best of Dwele

Aiight...so people have been getting at me saying they love the slow jam mixes but every now and then could I throw together sumthin that's a cool out mix that's a mixture of both uptempo and slow jam bangers. So with that said, check out my best of Dwele mix that's guaranteed to be dope at BBQ's, when cats comet through to play spades or just chillin' with your shorty over a glass of wine. Prayerfully this is exactly what cats have been asking for. And who can front on Dwele? 

Tracklisting:
Find A Way
A Pimp's Dream
Truth
Know Your Name
A.N.G.E.L. (interlude)
Open Your Eyes
Down Jimmy
Whoomp
I'm Cheating
I Think I Love You
Sho Ya Right
A Few Reasons
I Understand
Imagine
Weekend Love
Twuneanuda
My People
Working On It
Dime For Your Thoughts
Flapjacks
Keep On
A.N.G.E.L. (reprise)

Link:
The Best of Dwele

Instructions On How to Download:
#1 - Click the link that will take you to sendspace.com and click the blue button that says "click here to start download from sendspace." DO NOT click any other "download" buttons.

#2 - Pick the destination of the download (exp. Desktop, C drive, My music, etc.)

#3 - Once the file is finished, it's in a zip file and you'll need to unzip it. Right click the zip file and click "extract" and it will put the music in a regular folder with the mp3 files.

 #4 - At this point you can play the files from your computer but if you want to burn them to CD put the mp3 files into your itunes, real player, etc. library and burn them to CD and enjoy!

Friday, June 21, 2013

Dr. Roz and Kil: Should I Get Married If My Family Won't Be My #1 Priority?


Dr. Roz and Kil give advice to a woman asking should she get married if she can't make her husband the #1 priority in her life.
 


Dr. Roz and Kil

About the authors:

Dr. Roz and Kil are relationship coaches and the creators of Marriage Exposed. They have been coaching couples and families for over 5 years. With a mixture of therapeutical strategies, biblical principals, practicality and laughter, Dr. Roz and Kil not only coach couples through the hard times of their relationships but they continue to impart wisdom, after their storms have passed.

Follow them @ Twitter | Facebook

Thursday, June 20, 2013

I Love You...Wait...I Love The Future You!

I've been called out by some friends on turning down dates or not dating some men.  Not because there is anything wrong with them. But, because of where they are currently at in life.

I hear "girl, he has so much potential though!"  The idea of dating someone for their potential is not really an option for me.  Why you ask?

At my current age (not in the early 20's), if a potential life mate is not at a point in life where I can accept him being at for the rest of our lives, I will pass.  I have already had the experience of working two jobs and holding down a spouse while he studied for his advanced degrees.  All this for his potential and the potential future of us as a family together.  After all that, I am divorced and single with kids.

When I think about that circumstance, Kanye West lyrics come to mind:

"He got thay ambition, bably look in his eyes
This week he's moppin' floors, next week it's fries
So, stick by his side
I know these dudes ballin and yeah that's nice
And they gon' leep callin and tryin'
But you stay right, girl
But when you get on, he leave your ass for a white girl"

Okay back to my original points.

I think there is a true danger in being with someone for their "potential".  We see someone in school or looking like they are about to do something we consider big.  Then we start daydreaming about what they will do with their lives, what we will do together, how happy everything will be, etc., etc., etc.

What if those things never happen?  What if life takes a different turn?  What if they change their mind about the direction we were so excited about?  Do you still want that person?

More often than not, people feel cheated out of what they thought would happen. Then they become angry at the other person for not making these dreams come true.  It really is unfair to penalize someone for the dreams you had for their life.

We can become so future minded and goal grabbing, we forget to look at what is in the here and now.  Do I appreciate this person in front of me now?  If they never "become" will I still want them?  If they stay exactly as they are now, will that be okay?  Will I still love them if they don't live up to what I think is their "potential"?

If you answer no to any of those questions, keep it moving.  You can't create someone elses future for them.  You can create your own future and if that person does meet that potential, then BONUS!

Choose wisely too!  You may choose someone for their really bright future and get them through with a lot of support and they can turn around and choose to live that future without you.  Check the character of the person first. A person with character issues and "red flags" can turn on you without notice.

Here is a nice cliche for you: Don't count your chickens before they are hatched.

What are your thoughts or experiences on this topic?  I want to hear from you.



Laura Hernandez

About the author:

Laura Hernandez is an energetic, divorced mother of twins. She is a hypnotist, motivational speaker, life coach and unintentional comedienne. Through sharing her life story of tragedy, struggle and overcoming against the odds, she strives to encourage every person she comes in contact with to transform their lives and live in hope, love, happiness and wholeness.

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Wednesday, June 19, 2013

Support: 2nd Annual Bosobel Camp In Jamaica

If you come through here enough you know that me and Dr. Roz love to support people's endeavors especially if it's dealing with marriage/family or a good cause. And our newest #Support effort is mos def for a good cause. A lot of cats know I work with teens in SE Washington DC and a lot of folk ask me what they can do to help out or  how they can help support. Well, I'm glad ya'll asked (even if you didn't actually ask) cause my homegirl Titi is having a fundraiser for her camp in Jamaica this summer and I would LOVE for the Marriage Exposed Family to get behind this venture. I met Titi a couple of years ago when we both wrote for Couch Sessions and she reviewed me and Vegas' first album "The Grey Area" and we've been cool ever since. (and not just cause she gave our album a DOPE review) As long as I've known Titi, I've know that she has a PASSION for helping kids and a love for Jamaica, so this summer camp is truly a labor of love for her. Now trust, this ain't no Sally Strutters "you can buy an african kid for 10 cents a day" scam cause if I cosign it AND put my money behind, you can bet it's on the up and up. Titi is asking for ANY help you can give and no amount of money is too small. Her goal is $1,500 so, do me this justice and don't hit up Starbucks today, take your lunch to work with you and put back that new Kanye album (it's wack anyway...trust me) and use that money to help a kid who is less fortunate. So, PLEASE take a sec out your day and visit her Go Fund Me account here and check out Titi's story on why she's SO passionate about helping kids. Also follow her on Twitter for updates on what's going on with the camp  and if you feel lead to donate, you can click on the link to her Go Fund account which is in the right sidebar on this site. Thanks as always for the support ya'll show the projects Roz and I get behind.

Meet some of the kids Titi worked with last year in Jamaica and the final day of the camp.

Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Kil: Be A Father To Your Child

When I first started my job working with teens in the Wellington Park section of SE Washington D.C. I had the bright idea that one of my first assignments for them to do was to complete a family tree. Welp…that idea blew up in my face when the majority of them started saying stuff to me like “I don’t know my dad” or “I never met his side of the family! Mr. Kil, how you gonna make me find out stuff from people I don’t know?” And those statements totally floored me. Yeah, me and my dad have had our ups and but at least I knew I could always reach him if I needed him. But to not know who your dad is or where he is or have absolutely no contact with him...I just don’t understand that. Even when I think back on some of my close friendships that I’ve had for 30+ years, I realized I’ve never met or even heard some of them talk about their dads. And when I think about that, in the immortal words of KRS One I gotta ask myself, why is that?

I’ve racked my brain over and over about why a man wouldn’t want to be in their child’s life. Maybe because they never wanted the kid in the first place. Maybe because the relationship with the child’s mom didn’t work out. Or have ya’ll heard the one about they didn’t have a father growing up? If it seems like I’m making a joke about these reasons (or excuses – is there a difference between the two?) why men aren’t in their kid’s life, it’s because I kinda am. Why? Because to be honest, I could care less WHY you’re not in your kid’s life. What I do care about is these men getting back into their kid’s lives. See, one of the most beautifulest (in the words of Mr. Keith Murray) things in the world about being above ground, is that no matter how much wrong we’ve done, we’re always given a chance to change. And that’s EXACTLY what I’m challenging these absentee fathers to do…change.

Men, we have to step up to the plate and do what we’re called to do and that’s to be fathers to our children. Not to just be the dad who teaches his son how to throw a football or who takes his daughter to the park but to be the FATHERS who has conversations with their sons about how to pray and how to treat women. To be the FATHERS who have conversations with their daughters about how men are suppose to treat them and what a godly man looks like. To be the FATHERS, who share their mistakes with their sons and daughters so that they’re able to see that dads make mistakes too. Yeah, THOSE are the fathers I’m challenging all of us to be.

I’m blessed that folk see me as not only a good father but as a good man in general so much that I have 9 god children with my 9th being born just a week ago. I’m also blessed that some of my peoples (who’s history of being a great dad might not be the best) have pulled me to the side to get in my ear about how they can step their game up. And these next six steps I give ‘em are far from being the handbook on how to be a good father but they’re mos def good starting point.

#1 Pray for your children and teach them how to pray.

I don't think a day goes by when Tee and I don't pray for Naomi. For her well being, that she will be everything God wants her to be and that we're doing a good job being her parents. We also taught her at a very early age how to talk to God and to share with HIM what she wants and needs. Now that she’s older, the majority of the time, Tee and I can fall back and let Naomi lead the prayer.

#2 Talk to your kids.

It amazes me how many parents don't talk to their kids. It seems so obvious but a lot of parents don't do it. Everyday when I pick Naomi up from school I ask her what was the best part and worst parts of her day and why. You may be surprised at some of the things you may find out that your kids are going through.

#3. Share with your kids.

And what I mean by "share with your kids" is let them know that you have struggles too. Too many times as fathers we just talk "at" our kids and not "with" them. For example, Nay is VERY impatient...but so am I! So if I'm getting on Nay about being impatient, I gotta throw myself in the mix and say "well, you know daddy needs to learn to be more patient too.” We've gotta let our kids know that we're human too and that we've messed up in the past & will continue to mess up and that none of us are perfect.

#4. Tell your kids you're proud of them. 

The #1 rule in our home is to simply "try.” I know Naomi is not gonna be perfect and get an A+ on every test but I do expect her to try. And not a day goes by when I don't tell Nay that I'm proud of her. One day Nay didn't do her homework right and she said "I didn't do it right, I know you're not proud of me" and I was like "I'm ALWAYS proud of you...even when you don't get it right.

#5 Tell your kids you love them. 

I must tell Naomi I love her 1,000,000 times a day! Everyday when I drop her off at school I ask her "how much do I love you?" And she stretches her arms wide and grunts trying to reach for something (I told her I love her SO much she'll never be able to reach it) and says "that much". It's important that our kids know that we love them no matter what.

#6. Teach your kids to give back. 

When Naomi was 3 we volunteered at our church for Thanksgiving helping to make plates for the homeless and everyone was shocked that we dragged a 3 year old with us. But it was important to us that Naomi saw first hand what giving back looks like. Now when Naomi can't fit something, she'll come to us and say "can I give this to someone who may need it?" I seriously can’t stress how important it is that we teach our kids about helping others.
I remember when I first heard Ed O.G.'s 1st single "I Gotta Have It"...man...I was blown. That beat?!?!? And these dudes were from Boston??!?! Word?!?!? But I guess with NYC's finest Teddy Ted and Speciak K producing money, he couldn't lose. It's funny when "Be A Father..." first dropped, I thought it was wack...too soft. Which actually now makes me respect Ed O.G. THAT much more that he dropped this around the same time N.W.A. had all of us singing "I' Rather F-ck You" and made this his signature song. #Salute




Kil

About the author:

Kil is a relationship coach, producer, writer, photographer, director and co-creator of Marriage Exposed. He has been married 13 years to his beautiful wife Tanya and they have a beautiful daughter together, Naomi. Through Marriage Exposed & coaching couples with Dr. Roz, Kil encourages people to always continue to fight for their marriages and relationships.

Follow him @ Twitter | Facebook| Instagram | Website 

Monday, June 17, 2013

Dr. Roz and Kil: I'm Married And I Can't Get Laid Too Part 2


Dr. Roz and Kil give a wife advice on how she can get "some" from her husband part 2.
 


Dr. Roz and Kil

About the authors:

Dr. Roz and Kil are relationship coaches and the creators of Marriage Exposed. They have been coaching couples and families for over 5 years. With a mixture of therapeutical strategies, biblical principals, practicality and laughter, Dr. Roz and Kil not only coach couples through the hard times of their relationships but they continue to impart wisdom, after their storms have passed.

Follow them @ Twitter | Facebook

Friday, June 14, 2013

Dr. Roz and Kil: I'm Married And I Can't Get Laid Too Part 1


Dr. Roz and Kil give a wife advice on how she can get "some" from her husband.
 


Dr. Roz and Kil

About the authors:

Dr. Roz and Kil are relationship coaches and the creators of Marriage Exposed. They have been coaching couples and families for over 5 years. With a mixture of therapeutical strategies, biblical principals, practicality and laughter, Dr. Roz and Kil not only coach couples through the hard times of their relationships but they continue to impart wisdom, after their storms have passed.

Follow them @ Twitter | Facebook

Monday, June 10, 2013

Dr. Roz and Kil: My Husband Never Sacrifices For Me!

Dr. Roz and Kil give a wife advice on how to deal with her husband who never sacrifices for her.
 


Dr. Roz and Kil

About the authors:

Dr. Roz and Kil are relationship coaches and the creators of Marriage Exposed. They have been coaching couples and families for over 5 years. With a mixture of therapeutical strategies, biblical principals, practicality and laughter, Dr. Roz and Kil not only coach couples through the hard times of their relationships but they continue to impart wisdom, after their storms have passed.

Follow them @ Twitter | Facebook

Sunday, June 9, 2013

Sensual Sundays: The Best of Avant


Avant's name may not ring bells with the big boys of R&B but trust, money KEEPS a slow banger in the chamber. Don't believe me? Check out this best of Avant and tell me I'm lying.

Tracklisting: 
Separated
When We Make Love
You Never Had Someone
Can't Wait
Don't Take Your Love Away
4 Minutes
Don't Say No, Just Say Yes
Happy
Read Your Mind
When It Hurts
This Is Your Night
My First Love w/Keke Wyatt
Nothing In This World w/Keke Wyatt
Hot 16
Grown Ass Man
Phone Sex
Imagination
Everything About You
Director

 Link:
The Best of Avant

Instructions On How to Download:
#1 - Click the link that will take you to sendspace.com and click the blue button that says "click here to start download from sendspace." DO NOT click any other "download" buttons.

#2 - Pick the destination of the download (exp. Desktop, C drive, My music, etc.)

#3 - Once the file is finished, it's in a zip file and you'll need to unzip it. Right click the zip file and click "extract" and it will put the music in a regular folder with the mp3 files.

 #4 - At this point you can play the files from your computer but if you want to burn them to CD put the mp3 files into your itunes, real player, etc. library and burn them to CD and enjoy!

Monday, June 3, 2013

Dr. Roz and Kil: How To Compromise On The Small Things In Your Marriage

Dr. Roz and Kil answer one of their follower's question about how to compromise on the small things in your marriage.




Dr. Roz and Kil

About the authors:

Dr. Roz and Kil are relationship coaches and the creators of Marriage Exposed. They have been coaching couples and families for over 5 years. With a mixture of therapeutical strategies, biblical principals, practicality and laughter, Dr. Roz and Kil not only coach couples through the hard times of their relationships but they continue to impart wisdom, after their storms have passed.

Follow them @ Twitter | Facebook